How To Manage Expectations!
Hello, lady/gentleman, greetings from my most perceptibly beautiful mind (wink). I am guessing you opened this article expecting to learn how to manage your expectations. Well, STOP expecting that! What you should expect, for this particular scenario, is one of two things; I shall either teach you how to manage your expectations or I shall not. Let’s see what I have in mind…
As far as my knowledge is concerned, the best way to manage expectations is by expecting anything! That sounds precise, right? But then, how do you expect anything? If you guessed, ‘Probability’, you are absolutely right!
In case you did not know, or had forgotten, probability is synonymous to expectation. The only issue we have with conventional expectations is that we only consider one outcome, especially the one we desire. For example, when there is a soccer match between, say, Arsenal and Chelsea, a typical fan of either expects the club they support to win, because that is what they desire. The reality, however, is that their team ideally has as big a chance of winning as it does of losing or drawing. The outcomes of this competition are 3, ergo, each outcome has an expectation share of 1/3.
So, with that, understand that EVERYTHING in life is subject to probability, whatever you are getting into, study its probability first. When getting into a relationship, remember that there is a probability that it might or might not work out. Do not get into it with one expectation just because it is what you desire, consider what you don’t desire as well.
I know all this might go against your idea of having hope and being optimistic, but reality does not care for those things. The good news is that probability is not rigid. There are things you can do to increase or decrease it, depending on what you want. In the soccer match example I gave above, each team has a strategy it lays in order to increase their chances of emerging the victors.
So, whatever you do or get into, consider probability first, establish what you can do to increase chances of success or decrease chances of failure, and that way, you won’t have to deal with conventional one sided expectations that, more often than not, lead to disappointments!
I have explained this in as much detail as I contextually could to increase the chances of you learning from this, but if I have failed you, I am sorry, I didn’t mean to. Have a wonderful time. Thank you so much for reading.