Love is a mindset, not a feeling…

This has nothing to do with this article, I just love pirates. Oh, maybe it does after all…

Hello, I know it’s been a long while (a very long while), but my crush is the reason I am writing this (thank you, darling). It is majorly intended to provide you with a perspective of love you might or might not have come across before, so, let’s dig in.

Love! Smh!

Google simply defines it as an intense feeling of deep affection, a very precise definition, if you ask me, BUT…

I think there is more to love than just a feeling. Feelings are so simple, you have them at 6 in the morning and by 10, they are gone. Arguably, there are different kinds of feelings in us, but agreeably, most are characteristically short term, think through them and see; adoration, admiration, anxiety, amusement, joy, happiness, sadness, excitement, pain, name it! All these are so temporary, so do not treat love as a feeling and expect it to thrive!

From my perspective, love is and should be treated as a mindset that can be nurtured, independent of most of our feelings. When you love someone, no intensity of anger or disappointment should affect that love you have for them. It becomes easier to love when it(love) is separated from feelings. In such times of unpleasant feelings, the mindset of love will rule over and you are reminded that this is someone you love and you understandably acknowledge that they are, like all humans, prone to making mistakes and the love continues, it is how I personally get by.

To get to this point, you have to detach the negative feelings or any other things from love; birthdays, anniversaries, gifts and all that, treat them independently. Do not think that someone does not love you simply because they forgot your birthday, similarly, do not assume that someone loves you simply because they remembered your birthday and took it upon themselves to honor it. The sweet feelings do not necessarily constitute love, because they can be induced in you from an opportunistic perspective.

So, dear friend, if you want to harvest the best from love, do not treat it as a feeling, but rather a mindset.

Thank you for taking your time out to read this, till next time, stay as safe as you possibly can. Merry Christmas.