Moving on is actually easy!

When an idea is stored in memory in your brain, you will keep revisiting it, consciously or unconsciously, and the frequency with which it is brought to your awareness depends on how the memory was planted, what emotions were contained in it while it was being stored and what it is attached to for triggers that bring it to consciousness.

This process is messy and has a couple of inevitable undesirable occurrences that no one has any control over, like the desire to restore things back to what you derived satisfaction from, could be a lover, an item once owned, a place once accustomed to, all followed by a change that you find rather unpleasant in comparison to what you had.

So, at a certain point, you have a desire to get back what you used to have, which desire is built up by the brain’s prediction of the possibility of being rewarded with the satisfaction that you used to harvest from having it. And this constitutes hope, optimism if you may.

What this desire does not let you put into account is the reality that there is probability. You are on the extreme end of optimism as distracted by the idea of looking forward to a reward from the pursuit of this desire.

With your brain in this battle, you have zero acceptance for any other outcome since you are driven by this desire, ergo, you won’t be able to easily move on!

To easily move on;

1. Establish what your desire towards what you want to move on from is.

2. Establish the reward you get from this desire if fulfilled.

3. Explore the possibilities with probability.

4. Lose the excess hope and have room to consider the fact that, from the perspective of probability, which is reality, sometimes things completely fail to work out.

With this acknowledgement, you are so close to acceptance, which is the ultimate weapon in the arsenal of whoever intends to move on from something. Because failure or difficulty in moving on is mainly rooted in lack of acceptance of how reality works. You will have things/people today and tomorrow you may lose them.

Granted, acceptance takes great work to achieve, but being aware of the process that leads you to it is a start, to getting more of it and good at it and eventually when you have enough of it, you will find it easy to move on from anything!

It is undeniably acknowledgeable that the brain does not easily adjust to new systems of data processing, but at the end of the day, it is in your best interest to not be in extremes when it comes to optimism and pessimism. Don’t be extremely optimistic and also don’t be extremely pessimistic. Have both and find balance that will help you to keep motivated to work towards what you desire but also consider the possibility of absolute failure, because it exists inevitably!