SEXUAL PROWESS IN MEN!
Heterosexual intercourse is a highly complex activity, but sexual prowess among men is most perceptibly determined by just two things; ability to last long and making the woman orgasm, which, ironically sounds simple enough, but we all know, from experience or otherwise, that this is really not the case.
The first sexual experience is usually stereotypically met with pessimism and the man will be excused (or excuse himself) for not performing well. It would, in fact, be a surprise if he does! However, the subsequent 2–3 experiences will set the tone and he will pick up a pattern and have a conclusion about how good/bad he thinks he is!
It is quite unfortunate that most of us pick information about coitus from pornographic films, which are mostly, according to a couple of sources, exaggerated, and that makes sense, because I think most of us have tried to pull off stunts that we saw in those films and miserably failed, not because we are unable to, but because they are unrealistic and impractical.
Men have a big challenge when it comes to coitus, because unlike for most women, orgasming in most men is guaranteed once they get involved in coitus, that is the minimum requirement for them (coitus). However, for some reason, it is mostly perceived that it is also the man’s responsibility to make sure that the woman he gets involved with also orgasms!
It becomes frustratingly embarrassing for him, if he is unable to make her orgasm. So not only does a man have to worry about lasting long during penetration, but also making the woman climax. This is too much pressure, but most women might not understand this, given that it is not an easy topic to comfortably have a conversation about, especially between people who are involved with each other sexually.
The other thing that most of us might not have figured out yet is that it is highly likely that in men, sexual performance has so many factors that determine it and the ones that make it excellent vary from time to time, individual to another and so on!
The little follow-up I have made reveals that sexual prowess in men is not flawlessly consistent. A man will perform differently every time, with the same woman or different ones. This, I think, is a result of the mysterious factors which may also vary from time to time. The activity is the same, the procedures don’t change, but the flow of sexual signals between the brain and our genitals (and any other parts of our bodies that we use) is not the same, it varies depending on very many factors, some of which we may never be able to pin-point. There can be some patterns which when well observed could ideally provide somewhat consistent results, but like 3 out of 5 times.
So, ultimately, it might be safe to conclude that there is no man who performs splendidly EVERY TIME he engages in coitus, and if there is, it might be a rare case, like 1 in every 30 men, or even more.
Gentlemen, if you are not lasting long enough (long enough would ideally be about 5 to 8 minutes), I know it is an embarrassing experience, but there is or are solution(s) for that. And if you are not making her orgasm, then she has a solution for you. It sounds that simple, but I think it is more complex than that; some women might not necessary know what would make them orgasm, or it could be that it is triggered in different ways and also depends on a couple of factors that are not easy to pin-point, so, do not feel like you are completely responsible if she doesn’t, or if she does!
Explore yourself, observe, find out what gives which results, experiment. You may not necessarily get to the bottom of it, but you might find something very helpful that works for you. Don’t only rely on external sources.
