Through No Fault Of Our Own
Hello, welcome to the fortress of my thoughts about whatever. Today, I would like to share with you what I have, for a while, been thinking about responsibility of wrongs — blame! Half of the year is gone and the other half awaits, and you probably have a couple of people you feel were (or are), at some point, responsible for any bad feelings or experiences you might have had to go through or are going through at the moment.
Admittedly, how you feel may seem justified to almost everyone who would care to step in your shoes, but what if, (just what if), things are not exactly how they appear to be?
In Uganda, if a motorcycle rider who takes on passengers for payment is involved in an accident with a regular car driver, it will stereotypically be thought, by many, that it is obviously the rider who was responsible, not the driver, because, let’s face it, these riders have quite the reputation, their own history is against them.
Do you suppose that the car driver cares more about his own life than the rider cares about his? No! They both, in an ideal scenario, care so much about their lives and would do what they can, to the best of their knowledge, to protect their lives from such accidents.
The important thing I am trying to bring out with this is that with every situation we are faced in life, we MOSTLY do what we can, to the best of our knowledge.
We do what we do basing on two main things;
- The information we have.
- How we reason using this information.
Granted, there are other factors that influence, but for the purpose of this article, I have focused on these two. I am sharing this in this way basing on the information I have regarding it and how I have reasoned using said information.
Whenever you see someone doing what you think is wrong, consider the possibility that maybe it is because they don’t have the information you have or if they do, they don’t reason it out the same way you do.
I am not sharing this to be used as an excuse to be shitty, but most of the time, it is Through No Fault Of Our Own that we act the way we do. There is a more scientific detailed explanation for this in a book called THE MOLECULE OF MORE and it is with the information I attained from it that I came up with this reasoning.
Therefore, I would like to bring it to your attention that whoever you think or feel wronged you and is responsible for any misfortunes in your life, there is a chance that this person did what they did innocently or they did it through the rush of an emotion they were experiencing, and at the time, that is how they were able to reason with the information they had!
Ultimately, they might not really be to blame, but rather, you are entertaining the feeling of holding them responsible because it eases your discomfort!
